“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” Gautama Buddha

 What is Anger?

Anger is highly explosive emotional outburst which may lead to physical attack or destruction of property. State of anger also includes exaggerate hostility to unimportant irritants, fast and harsh judgment statements made to or about others, use of passive-aggressive behaviors and social withdrawal. Tense muscles, clenched fist or jaw, glaring looks, refusal to make eye contact, heart rate and high blood pressure are the common symptoms of anger.

 Anger can be caused by both external and internal events. You could be angry at a specific person (Such as a co-worker or a friend) or event (a traffic jam, a canceled flight), or your anger could be caused by worrying about your personal problems.

 Anger Management

The purpose of anger management is to control both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. You can’t get rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that enrage you, nor can you change them, but you can learn to control your reactions.

 Anger is one of the biggest obstacles to personal growth and career success. When we fail to control our anger, we face several unpleasant consequences.

• Anger blocks our ability to be happy, because anger and happiness can not go together.
• Anger makes marriages and other family relationships part away.
• Anger leads to lose in business, because it destroys relationships.
• Anger reduces our social skills.
• Anger leads to increased anxiety and stress.
• When we are angry, our rational and logical thought process blocks and we make mistakes.

 ”Anger blows out the lamp of the mind” Robert Green Ingersoll

 Develop your anger management skills

Those who have a tough time controlling their anger, following anger management techniques will definitely help.

Anger Management Tip #1

When you feel angry, take a time out. Step away from a particular event or person that is starting to upset you. Take time for a short brisk walk.

Anger Management Tip #2
Ask yourself “Will the object of my anger matter one year from now?” you may find out its doesn’t matter in a long run and you will see things from a calmer perspective.

Anger Management Tip #3
Ask yourself “What is the worst consequence of the object of my anger?”. Take out all the possibilities that may arise. You will notice almost 90% of the possibilities that you have listed out have not occured and you are not sure if those really will happen in future. This will allow you to concentrate and focus better on the possibilities that are happening now and work on those.

Anger Management Tip #4
Imagine you doing the same thing. Admit that you sometimes cut in front of another driver too sometimes by accident. Do you get angry at yourself? No you don’t. 

Anger Management Tip #5
Ask yourself “Did that person do this to me on purpose?” In many cases, you will see that they were just careless or in a rush, and really did not mean you any harm.

Anger Management Skill #6
You should master the ability to respond instead of react. Everyone with anger issues are quick to react instead of to respond. When you respond you think first and effectively communicate your feelings. When you react you are not thinking and simply reacting to what the situation or other person has done or resulted in.

Anger Management Skill #7
You should master the ability to communicate assertively. This involves practicing effective communication and responding to certain things without getting hostile or angry about it.

Anger Management Skill #8
You should master the ability to adjust your expectations. The main reason many people become upset is because their expectations did not come to reality. When you do not get something that you expected it can cause the frustration that often leads to anger. This will help individuals to learn to adjust to difficult situations and people.

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